Resilience

Building Resilience through Thankfulness

It’s a funny thing about life, once you begin to take note of the things you are grateful for, you begin to lose sight of the things that you lack.”     ― Germany Kent

For me being thankful is a powerful tool to use to help persevere through my tough times.

I have kept a thankful journal for a long time. At times in my life I have written in it every morning. Taking a few minutes to start off my day simply and finding three things I have been thankful for. This helped set my mood and tone for the day. Even when I was working and knew that the day ahead was going to be especially challenging and add family commitments too – just taking the time to think of three things that made me grateful helped.

I shared this experience with a friend who was also struggling with her own challenges. We committed to each other to send our three grateful things to each other daily. No comments, no judgments, just a text ‘I am thankful for . . . . . .’  It was remarkable to both of us how much this helped. It not only set the tone for our own day, but it reassured us that someone else cared and was waiting to hear from us, not passing any judgement or comments.

 I’m not sure how long we did this or why we decided that we could stop but it was after that we talked about how much we gained through the experience.  And still do mention often how being grateful puts things into perspective.

After awhile of consciously taking the time to put the words down I find myself just thinking subconsciously about good things in my life as I start my day or pausing throughout the day if I find I have gotten into some “Mud”.

Although, through particularly thoughtful times it is helpful to still get out that journal and just start again – sometimes reading the written words is also very reassuring.

The author Neil Pasricha in his book ‘The Book of Awesome’ suggests -Every Morning Prompts to help you start your day. 

I will let go of …………………

I am grateful for …………………

I will focus on ……………………..

I made little sheets of these and put them in the front of my journal to use them to help me. 

On days when I feel a particular challenge I complete: 

 I have not …………………………………………… yet. 

I acknowledge something I want to do but telling myself that it is ok that I’m not there yet which gives me the power to leave it and move on.